MY JOURNEY
I didn't get here by having an easy life.
I got here by refusing to stay stuck in one.
Some of those years, I struggled with alcoholism.
And Barry stayed anyway.
I once asked him how he was able to forgive me for some of what we'd gone through.
He looked at me and said quietly, "Because I know who you are."
I'm glad he did.
I didn't.
But I do now.
The Return way™:
where it came from
When my husband Barry was diagnosed with Stage 4 melanoma, people kept asking me the same thing.
"How are you so calm?"
A few even said, "I want what you have."
I remember thinking, I don't even know how to answer that.
So, after Barry's scans starting improving and finally the cancer was designated as "resolved" I revisited those questions. I grabbed a pen and tried to write down everything I could think of that I actually did during the health crisis.
Step by step I pieced together what I did, like when fear showed up — and how I worked through it instead of letting it run the show.
Not because I was planning to write a book. I honestly thought it might help the people who were asking me... and maybe a few others too.
That writing became The RETURN Way™.
Today, it's the framework I share through my books, keynote, and workshops — to help others understand what's driving their behavior, and find their way back to themselves.
I wrote these books because someone once said, "I want what you have."
My hope is that somewhere in these pages, you find a little of that for yourself.
my weekly routine
Every Saturday morning, I walk Frisco before logging on to lead Women in the Rooms.
What began in 2025 as a small recovery meeting has become something much bigger—a community of women doing the deeper work together.
It's still going strong, and still one of the best parts of my week!
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